Many people are at a loss when a death occurs. They have no idea how to prepare for the experience. I didn’t either. Being thrown into grief from sudden loss is like finding yourself tumbling down a rabbit hole. Everything is distorted. Nothing makes sense anymore.
The fact that we don’t talk about grief in our society has ensured there is a serious lack of support for grievers in all areas of community. Having gone through a number of experiences in grief, including: coping with secondary losses, relationship breakdowns, other family deaths, living with PTSD, work disability, I know just how difficult it is to stand up for ourselves to have our needs met in every facet of this experience.
On this blog, I’ll be talking about all this and more to help grievers feel supported and manifest the life they want. One step at a time.
Grief in general is difficult. Complicated grief from tragic and sudden loss presents us with some of the toughest lessons we will ever face as human beings. Sometimes the grief challenges us only to survive. Other times, the lessons we can take from our suffering can feel like a complicated mix of humility and gratitude for the experience that brought us our pain. Much of the time it just feels like the unbearable emptiness that it is.
Yet, living with sorrow and pain is not in our best interest. I know first-hand how conflicting it feels wanting to feel joy after loss. However, we owe ourselves the right to heal from our pain and embrace the abundant life that can be ours.
Whether your world has recently been turned upside down by grief or you are well on your way to rebuilding, wanting to live a fulfilling life after loss has many rewards. Not least, the emotional freedom that comes when we choose to let go of our pain and embrace the opportunities that await.
While the journey isn’t easy after loss, it is worth us rising to the challenge of striving to be the best we can be, despite what’s happened to us. The Good Griever community invites you to soak up whatever information you find on this site that feels comforting in your healing, remembering there’s no right or wrong way to feel or to grieve.
Grief changes along the way. While it’s true that no one grieves exactly the same way, we do all cope with many of the same emotions after loss, though to varying degrees amidst our own unique circumstances. Whatever our differences are, I hope you’ll find this information helpful as you move forward in your healing.